Jealous traits
The question of the day is why do chicks that are supposed to be your friend always turn their backs on you....secretly, I think that unless a woman is an alpha or an alpha alpha female, when in a friendship, jealousy almost always comes into play. Though these jealous thoughts may not be intentional, women that harbor low self esteem often find themselves in these types of situations, because they are weak..mentally, physically and emotionally weak. Often abused, subject to violent relationships, eager to please anyone, allow men to take advantage of them, unknowingly allow these alpha females to use them. Many times they seek a dominant female so that they can mimic their style, study their ways and patterns, and try to be just like them.. It usually takes some time for these actions to be noticed on both ends of the spectrum. The jealous individual may not even realize their behavior and the individual being mimicked often realizes after some time. These women want to be the center of attention, they want to command and receive the communication that is associated with this woman. Women with low self esteem prey on these alpha women so that they can learn techniques, and they can continue to associate with and be around popular and strong women. They feed off of them and consume so much time trying to become them that they often lose themselves, and when they realize that they cant achieve these same things, no matter what, they are dissuaded.. They fall back and remove themselves from the entire relationship, they separate because they truly can not handle it. they On the opposite end of the spectrum, there are alpha women that only have low self esteem women that accompany them so that they can seem ultra alpha, or dominant, and be the know all be all in every situation. There are lower self esteem women that like to have dingbats around them after they displace their alpha friend so that they can assume the position of the alpha female, but it is all a facade. It is not real, it is a made-up situation to make them feel better. How can one comfortably live a life of wanting to belike someone else, wanting someones home, someones status, someones job, secretly wanting someones status, someones love, someones marriage, someones beauty, someones children, someones money, someones sense of humor, someones education, someones demeanor, someones family, someones background, someones unique talent, someones car...develop your own individuality. These women eat, sleep and dream about your life while you are trying to be a good friend. This is insane, almost a stalker type situation. The anger and aggression start to develop, the hatred and betrayal, negative attitude and withdrawal symptoms begin to show. The answer to this is; become your own person, stop living life vicariously through someone else, decipher your own look, goals, lifestyle, find your purpose, think about where you want to go and how to get there, define yourself and the perception that you want to be, and if truly want to be like the person you continue to emulate, emphasize upon the highlights and then decipher who you as an individual would like to be. Build up your own understanding, formulate a positive opinion of yourself, alleviate the feelings of subconscious hatred, and thoughts of wanting the alpha female to fail so that you can trump then...stop hoping for their lives to mess up, for them to lose a job, for their husband to leave them, so that they can't hold their position. Truth be told, the same woman that you aim and have the zest to be like, may have financial woes that you don't see, may have a fear of not being the best looking, but her image , dominance and confidence, exudes through her pores. You can not see the defeat, you can not take ownership of her feelings. You may know stories she has told to make her this individual, but utilize those experience to become your own person, use these own ices as a perception, as a funnel to the end result that YOU want to be. In reality, you cant live life trying t be someone else, you would have spent your whole lifetime in vain, and maintain a constant state of unhappiness because you were trying your entire life t be scene else, which means when they write an obituary about you, there is nothing to say, no accolade, no memory other than she tried to hard to be what she wasn't.. What definition of your life do you want to be left, who do you want to be remembered as? If you are one of these women, think to yourself, and answer this truthfully, WHO ARE YOU? Anyone seen Single White Female.....Damn....
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